Saturday, November 20, 2010

Paradigm Principle-Centered

Character Ethics based on the idea that there are fundamental principles that govern human effectiveness - natural law in as real human dimension, which does not change and can not be denied as well as law of gravitation in the physical dimension.
The idea of reality - and impact - of these principles can be seen on others experience a paradigm shift such as that delivered by Frank Koch in Proceedings, Naval Institute magazine.
Two battleships assigned to the squadron was at sea training and are conducting maneuvers in bad weather for several days. I served in the main warship and was on guard on the bridge as night fell. Poor visibility due to fog, the captain remained on the bridge watching all the activity.
Shortly after dark, lookouts on the bridge wing reported, "Ray, in the right direction."
"Fixed or moving backwards?" The captain shouted.
The spy said, "Stay, Captain", which means we are in a dangerous direction collision with the ship.
The captain then called out to signaling, "Give a signal to the ship: We are on a collision direction, we recommend that you change course 20 degrees."
Come sign replies, "You are advised to change the direction of 20 degrees."
The captain said, "Send the message, I'm Captain, change your direction 20 degrees."
"I am sailor level two", came the reply. "You should change direction 20 degrees."
At that time the captain became angry. He shouted, "Send the message, I'm warships. Change your direction 20 degrees. "
Come again replies, "I am the lighthouse."
We had to change direction.
Paradigm changes experienced by the captain put a different situation altogether. We can see a reality that is directed by a limited perception - a reality that is as critical for us in our daily life as it is for the captain in the fog.
Principles, like the lighthouse. Principles are natural laws that can not be violated. As noted by Cecil B. DeMille on the principles contained in the landmark film, The Ten Commandment, "We can not possibly violate the law. We will only destroy ourselves for violating those laws.
While individuals view life and their interactions in accordance with the paradigm or the map that emerged from their experience and conditioning, the map itself is not the territory described. Map is a "subjective reality", just an attempt to describe the region.
"Objective Reality", or the region itself, consisting of the principle of "lighthouse", which regulates growth and human happiness - the natural laws of civilized society are interwoven throughout the ages that became the roots of every family and institution that has been tested. The degree to which our mental maps to accurately depict the region without changing its existence.
The reality of the principle or natural law like this will be evident to anyone who thinks deeply and examines the cycle of social history. These principles often come to the surface, and are at the stage where people recognize and live in harmony with it to maintain the viability and stability or destruction and damage them.
These principles can be proven and can be easily verified by anyone. It seems as if the principle or natural law is part of the state of consciousness, and human conscience. These principles seem to exist within everyone, regardless of social conditions and the loyalty that exists.
For example, we refer to the principle of fairness, which develops throughout our concept of justice. Young children seem to have the innate sense of fairness, although the opposite experience of existing conditions. There are major differences in the way of fairness is defined and achieved, but there is an almost universal awareness of the underlying concept.
Other examples include integrity and honesty. Both form the basis of trust and cooperation essential for personal growth and interpersonal in the development of long-term.
One other principle is human dignity. The basic concept in the Notices of Independence United States show the value or principle. "We assume that there has been an essential truth: that all men are created equal and endowed by the Creator with certain rights that can not be revoked, among others, are right to life, liberty and the attainment of happiness."
There is a principle of service, or contributing ideas or donations. The other is Quality and Excellence.
There is a potential principle, the idea that we are in the embryonic stage and can grow and grow and show more and more potential, develop more and more talent. The principle is closely connected with the growth potential - the potential and talent development process, which takes the principles of patience, attention, and Encouragement.
The principle is not the practice. Practice is particular activity or action. Practices that succeed in one state does not have to succeed in other circumstances, as evidenced by parents who tried to raise a second child exactly the same when they raise their first child.
If the practice is specific according to the situation, then the principle is an essential and fundamental truth that has universal application. The principle is always true for every individual, marriage, family, private and government organizations. When it becomes a habit, this truth gives strength to the person to create a wide variety of practice in dealing with different situations.
Principle is not a value. A set of thieves may have the same values, but this value violates the basic principle that we are talking about. Principles are the territory. Values are maps. If we face a true principle, we have the truth - a knowledge of all things as they are.
Principles are guidelines for behavior which has proven lasting and permanent value. The principle is fundamental. The principle basically can not be denied because by itself is clear. One way to understand quickly the nature of which is clear from the principle suffices to consider the absurdity of an effective effort to live a life based on what is contrary to these principles. Very doubtful if anyone is seriously considering injustice, deceit, humiliation, inferiority, or degeneration as a solid foundation for lasting happiness and success. Although people may argue about how these principles are defined or manifested or achieved, there seems to be innate awareness that these principles do exist.
The more parallel the map or our paradigm with the principle or law of this nature, the more accurate and functional map or paradigm it becomes. Correct map will give effect without limits on personal and interpersonal effectiveness far greater than any effort put forth to change our attitudes and behavior.

Taken from : The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen R. Covey

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Strength of Paradigm

Seven Habits of Highly Effective covers many basic principles of human effectiveness. These habits are basic; is the primary thing. The seven habits illustrates the internalization of correct principles which form the basis for lasting happiness and success.
But before we can really understand these Seven Habits, we need to understand the "paradigm" we own and how to make a "paradigm shift".
Good Character and Ethics Ethics Personality are examples of social paradigms. The word paradigm comes from the Greek. This word is originally a scientific term, and more commonly used today with the meaning of models, theories, perceptions, assumptions, or frames of reference. In a more general sense, the paradigm is the way we 'see' the world - not related to the visual sense of the act of seeing, but rather with the perception, understanding, interpreting.
For our purposes, a simple way to understand paradigms is to see it as a map. We all know that the 'map is not the territory'. Map is only an explanation of certain aspects of the region. That is exactly what is meant by paradigm. Paradigm is a theory, explanation, or model for something.
Suppose you want to arrive at a certain place in downtown Chicago. A road map of the city will really help you to arrive at the destination. However, suppose you were given the wrong map. Due to printing error, a map labeled "Chicago" is actually a map of Detroit. Can you imagine the frustration and ineffective effort to reach your destination?
You probably are processing your behavior - you can try harder, harder, redouble your speed. But your efforts will only succeed to bring you to the wrong place earlier with faster.
You probably are processing your attitude - you can think more positively. You still will not come to the right place, but maybe you do not care.
The point is you getting lost. The fundamental problem is not related to the behavior or your attitude. The real problem associated with having the wrong map.
If you have the correct map of Chicago, then diligence becomes important, and if you face frustrating barriers along the way, then attitude can make a difference that really counts. However, the requirements of the first and most important is the accuracy of the map.
We each have many maps in our heads, which can be divided into two main categories: map things as they are, or realities, and maps everything as it should, or value. We interpret everything we experience through these mental maps. We rarely question the accuracy of these maps, we usually do not even realize that we have both. We just assume that the way we see everything is everything as is or as they should.
And our attitudes and behaviors grow from these assumptions. The way we see things is the source of the way we think and how we act.
Taken from : The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen R. Covey

Personality Character and Character Ethic

Almost all the literature in the first 150 years focused on what is called the Character Ethic as the foundation of success - things like integrity, humility, faithfulness, self limiting, courage, justice, patience, diligence, modesty modesty, and Main Justice (did according unto others as things that you wish they made to you). Benjamin Franklin's autobiography is representative literature. This is essentially the story of the efforts of one person to integrate the principles and certain habits that are embedded deep inside her.
Character Ethic taught that there are basic principles of effective living, and that one can only experience true success and lasting happiness if they learn and integrate these principles into their basic character.
However, shortly after World War I, the basic view of the successful change of Ethics Character becomes what can we call the Personality Ethic. Success is more a function of personality, public image, attitudes and behaviors, skills and techniques, that lubricate the processes of human interaction. Ethics personality is basically taking two paths: one is the technique of human relations and society, and the other is a Positive Mental Attitude. Some of this philosophy expressed in the proverb which often gives inspiration and sometimes legitimate, such as "Your attitude determines your altitude position," "make more friends smile than frown," and "Anything that can be understood and believed by a good man, certainly can achieved ".
Another part of the personality approach clearly manipulative, often deceptive, encouraging people to use certain techniques to make others like them, or pretend to be interested in hobbies of others to get what you want from that person, or to use the "appearance of power ", or to intimidate their way in life.
Some of this literature states that the character is an ingredient of success, but tend to avoid and not realize it as fundamental and as a catalyst. Reference to the Character Ethic mostly only on the lips only; drive is essentially a technique affect the rapid, power strategies, communication skills, and positive attitude.

Taken from : The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen R. Covey

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Strategies to Develop Leadership

Whether you are a corporate executive, manager, church leader, chamber director or teacher, leadership is the highest skill you can bring to the table, especially in these challenging times. Although we hear the term "born leader" often, more often than not leadership skills are developed rather than discovered. Here are a few ideas for developing your leadership skills.

1. Have a vision.

One reason leaders influence people and organizations is that they have a clear picture of what they want for their business, church, chamber or project. People who leave no doubt where it is they are going attract followers.

2. Be aware.

A leader knows his own strengths and motivations, but also his limitations and challenges. A leader is aware of others' feelings, reactions, strengths and motivations. She is aware of what is "going on" around her.

3. Respond, don't react.

Reactions are emotion driven and often lead to inappropriate words or actions. Strong leaders choose instead to be thoughtful and measured in responding to challenges and crises.

4. Know your values.

Leadership requires self-discipline. Before one can discipline oneself she must know what she stands for in the first place. When you are clear on your values and your standards, and live by them, you become character driven rather than emotion driven.

5. Maintain a positive attitude.

One reason Dr. Norman Vincent Peale's book, "The Power of Positive Thinking," is still one of the best read books in the world is that we all want to be inspired to think positively and know the power of positive thinking. The leader knows how to generate it within himself and to broadcast it.

6. Be enthusiastic.

Along with positive thinking, enthusiasm draws people to you and your cause. Napoleon Hill says that enthusiasm is the steam that drives the engine. The great John Wooden said, "without enthusiasm you can't work up to your fullest ability." Enthusiasm can't be taught, but it can be caught. Catch fire and let others catch yours!

7. Speak well.

Tom Peters, in his book "Power," writes that "being able to speak effectively is real power" and recommends Toastmasters. There's a reason why this international organization of over 8000 clubs calls its training "Leadership and Communications." Leadership and effective communications go hand-in-hand. Join Toastmasters!

8. Listen well.

One of the most attractive skills we can develop is one of truly listening to others, because it says we care. Yet, experts tell us we hear only 70% of what others are saying. Learn to listen not just with your ears, but with your eyes and your heart.

9. Don't try to fix people.

Help people excel at what they are already good at. So advise Buckingham and Coffman in their book "First, Break All the Rules." The reality is that we don't all have the same potential and we can't all be everything we want to be. The leader recognizes the strengths of others and helps them develop those strengths rather than trying to make them something they are not.

10. Get your needs met.

What must you have in your life in order to be complete? We're talking needs, not wants, which are usually substitutes for our needs. We are told that most of our decisions in life are, at the root, needs driven. When you are not coming from a place of need, your integrity is intact and you are a more effective leader.

Ways to Take Actions

Sometimes getting started can be the toughest part of the day, especially on Mondays! What's worse, a bad start can make for a bad day and even a bad week. Here are ten ways to ensure that you get moving quickly and effectively on Monday or any other day!

1. Take time to get organized.

How's your work space? Is it crowded, sloppy, piled high with yesterday's business, surrounded by memorabilia from family outings and favorite leisure activities? Remember: every item within range or your eyes or ears impacts upon you--if only subconsciously--and splits your focus. Get rid of everything that is extraneous in your work place or office and have an assigned place for EVERYTHING. It takes time to get organized but, once accomplished, it pays off in less wasted moments.

2. Begin the night before.

Don't wait until Monday morning to decide what you're going to do for the day or week. Set aside time on Sunday to: (a) decide what you want to do and accomplish for the week, and (b) schedule your next day (Monday). And here's a tip: select a time when you are relaxed, not rushed, and give yourself a chance to muse about what you want to achieve during the week.

3. Prioritize your plan.

If your plan is actually a TO DO list, you probably have far more items on it than you can hope to accomplish in any reasonable time. That's where prioritizing comes in. I don't have any problems with TO DO lists as long as they're prioritized. In fact, putting items on the list that need to be done, but are of low priority has the effect of removing them from my mind--I can check back now and then, but I don't worry about them. And, guess what: when I DO check back, I often find that the need to get them done has simply evaporated. But, back to prioritizing. A simple system is: A equals Very important, B equals Important, C equals Not very important. If you have a D in your system, drop it and all the items under it!

4. Honor your personal work styles.

When you are most creative? When is the best time to: do routine chores? exercise? study? nap? (yes, nap! - see below) communicate? Each person has an ideal work style that operates as a function of being a certain body and personality type. Understand and honor that style and you will be more effective; ignore it, and you will work at less than optimum capacity. My style is to do creative work (writing, speculative thinking, planning) in the morning (sometimes very early at 0400 or so, even while in bed). Everyone is different and you have to determine what is right for you.

5. Cat nap.

If you're a Type A, you may have trouble with this one! The fact is, nearly everyone encounters a low point in energy, usually about 1:00 PM every day depending, of course, on what time they've gotten up and how much sleep they've had the night before. You can train yourself, using a simple 1 to 10 count-down method, to sleep for 5, 10, or 15 minutes. With practice, you'll wake up within a few seconds of the time you've chosen, AND you'll be more refreshed by this kind of meditative sleep which is more beneficial than normal sleep by a ratio of roughly 4:1. No, your nap won't keep you from getting to sleep at night. If anything, you will drift off more easily and gain greater benefits, because your nap sleeps help alleviate deep set and subtly building stress. I've trained myself to nap almost anywhere for period from five to thirty minutes. Even with minimum time, I wake up refreshed and ready to go.

6. Schedule time by blocks rather than tasks.

Have you ever allotted an hour to finish a task and then found that it took two hours thereby screwing up the rest of your day and schedule? It's a common occurrence and, when it happens, the result is greatly increased stress. The most common examples are tasks such as expense-keeping, writing or research projects, and phone calls. One way to alleviate the stress of these objective-oriented tasks is to simply allot a given amount of time to them, say an hour, and then move on to the next task. This practice ensures that you will make assessable progress on each task without getting bogged down.

7. Make the first touch the deciding one.

You've heard the standard advice: handle everything only once. Unfortunately, that's not always possible or prudent, and here's where the organization achieved through step one above comes in. Your first task with respect to new materials coming in to you (letters, assignments, calls, etc.) is to DECIDE what to do about them. In each case, your organization should support your decision. For example, in opening your mail (and e-mail), there will be some letters that you will want to answer immediately (probably very few), others you will want to answer within a specified period of time, others you will want to put on hold until you get more information, and still others that will be immediately destined for the circular file. The important thing here is to have identified the possible categories before hand and then be ruthless about adhering to them. In the case of correspondence, you may want to have a separate file for each category AND a procedure for periodically reviewing each file to ensure that you act on it. This same principle works with tasks you are assigned or jobs that pop up. Your first action is to determine the category in which they fall: do, delegate, defer, or drop.

8. Follow the WIFO principle, selectively.

WIFO stands for worst in, first out. Have you ever kept postponing a project because you just didn't want to do it? Chances are, if you look back at the experience, you'll find that you spend nearly as much time worry and rescheduling it as you did actually DOING it! There's a way around this one. Simply, DO IT-- either on a task or time basis. I've found this to be a powerful tool, because invariably those tasks that I've put off are easier and less time consuming than I expected, WHEN I simply get on with them.

9. Schedule a clean-up day or half-day at least weekly.

No matter how good you are at scheduling, there will always be times when your desk is piled high, your files over-stuffed, and your plan/schedule crowded with extra added tasks. You may find it helpful to pick a time each week (maybe Saturday morning) as a clean-up period, a time when you dispose of all those little things that have built up during the week and when you mentally review your priorities.

10. Become fully present-focused.

One of the virtues of scheduling activities by time blocks rather than by objective benchmarks is that it allows you to become totally absorbed for a set period of time in what you're doing. Believe it or not, total absorption is relaxing. It's splitting your attention--between what you're currently doing and what you have to do next--that is exhausting. When you become totally focused on what you are doing at the moment, a free-flowing momentum and pace occur, and you get the job done faster, easier, and time flies. The steps leading to total absorption in the task are: (a) Organize and task and set aside the time, (b) Remove all that is extraneous from your work space, (c) Rehearse the task mentally (this quiets the mind and focuses your attention), and (d) take each step deliberately and with full attention.

Monday, November 8, 2010

Recollection for Catholic Youth East District Paroki Purbowardayan, Surakarta

We started with introductions. Gathered in groups, and give the name of our group with a combination of our names... Seven de britis, Bras, Six Macho, Damai, Cinta, Vatikan, Mandat, Candi, New Buddy after Light, Masda... Full of creativity in composing the words, even in the philosophy of our group name... salute...!!!

We talk about the reality of Catholic Youth East District situation, thinking about the problem. However, we also sign up expectations that we have... We thought one by one, to sync with the opinions of friends...

Silence ... to precipitate our ideas ... so we can see with proportionate in the light of God. We present to God, to share about our problems ... We examine each of our hearts, how big the contribution that we provide as a Catholic young people.

We appreciate the passion of Christ, while continuing to examine our hearts ... Christ died on the cross for us, what we have to give reply to the Church? How do I respond to my vocation as a Catholic young people? If Christ came today and asked me to respond to his call, what would I do?

We closed the evening by receiving the body of Christ, as the peak of our miserable experience with Him. Thank you for your redemption, Christ ...

The next day, full game! First, we try to compete to make the longest configuration. We use all we have, we become connected for the longest ... Totality we tested, to provide overall we had. T-shirts, pants, belt, card, sandals, wallets, including money that is in it ...

If before we make the configuration of as long as possible shapes, we now create a configuration as short as possible shapes. We must dare to approach one another. Get closer and closer. So we are more familiar to each other ...

Next, we create the highest possible shape configurations. We must support each other to get maximum height. We are also against the fear of heights ...

The courage to face challenges and trust to friends, was tested in this game. We should pass a bridge which is made up of the hands of our friends ... sure I could pass it?

This is the hottest! strategy, teamwork, speed, compactness, the contribution, solidarity, self-sacrificing, tested in this game ... Despite the wet, but we can find the meaning of this game ... exciting ...

 El-Betel, Karangpandan,
on November, 06th - 07th 2010

Friday, November 5, 2010

Recollection for Senior High School 5 Surakarta 2009

Hello friends ... glad to see you ... Are you ready to play?

I gave my back to you, you give your back to me ... we write each other on the back ... then, see what I've written ... You'll be surprised about yourself hahaha ...

I share myself ... listen ... that I was unique, as well as yourself ... then we complement each other ... right?

time to play ... like train carriages which follow the movements of the locomotive. like children who do not want to lose the play ...

hey ..! what will you hold? listen to the instructions of your friend. but also use your instinct! Then you will be safe ...

precipitate .. so it is not easily lost, so meaningful, and useful for our lives ...